Change Is Constant: How Do People Cope With It

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While changes will coexist with life, this doesn’t mean that people can comfortably live with them. Most people struggle to live with it. However, people should inevitably learn to cope with its presence. And Borichevska’s book about trials and challenges in life shows people one way how.

Change is the only constant in the world. Being something that occurs consistently, it would’ve been safe to assume that people have grown attuned to this.

However, more often than not, they aren’t.

Yet despite people’s tolerance or lack thereof toward this, its existence is absolute. Life is filled with changes. These changes range from the smaller and subtler ones to the more considerable and significant shifts. Some are predetermined. This means that people already know these shifts will exist and anticipate them from happening. In contrast, others come and go unexpectedly. These are what take others by surprise.

Living a Life with Changes or Otherwise

If people were to choose between living a life filled with certainties and one brimming with surprises, undoubtedly, most would choose the former. While a planned or determined life may sound boring, it can also be safe and comfortable.

No matter how much people enjoy surprises on special occasions, living life constantly shocked or dumbfounded can be draining in the long run. Imagine not knowing what can happen for days on end and continuously getting caught off guard. Such will make one restless rather than amused.

People desire certainty. They want to be in control and have at least an inkling of what will happen next to feel secure. Changes disrupt this sense of control. Thus, it’s no surprise that people aren’t entirely on board with this matter.

However, life doesn’t adjust to people’s comfort.

Instead, it challenges them to go beyond their comfort zones. This is why society places significance on coping with these changes rather than avoiding them. Here are some practices people can do to embrace change in their lives.

Assessing the Level of Control

What makes changes frustrating isn’t the fact that people don’t welcome them. Instead, it’s the fact that people try to control and prevent them from happening. This leads to failure, thus cultivating this feeling of bitterness and defeat.

People need to acknowledge that they won’t have power over everything. Instead of focusing their energy on changing things they have no jurisdiction over, people can set their effort to make changes over the things they have power over.

Maintain a Routine

Even with the constant alterations in life, people want to be in control. One way to satisfy this desire is for people to have a constant. In line with knowing their level of control, people must realize that their routines are entirely theirs to define.

They must anchor themselves in believing that while change exists, it doesn’t take most of their authority in life. They must maintain and stick to their regular activities to do this.

For instance, change might take most of a person’s time in a day, whether this is set for school or work. This shouldn’t affect one’s routine, like having their favorite snack at 3 PM or watching their favorite show at 7 PM. But of course, what comes with change is the person’s need to adjust. If this change has affected their established time, they must also recalibrate their routine.

If work finishes at 8 PM, disrupting their activity at 7 PM, they can adapt to this change and re-set their routine to fit their new schedule better. Regardless of these changes, the important thing is that people must have a constant of their own to make them grounded against the changes outside of their control.

Shift to the Positives

When people have started viewing change as this frustrating event, it can be challenging to appreciate the positives that come with it. Whether or not people like these changes, most often than not, they also have their benefits. For one, changes are people’s perfect opportunity for growth.

For instance, having a residence change doesn’t always mean leaving memories and people behind. People can be too fixated on looking at this effect and this alone. This can lead to them ignoring the opportunity for better education or work. Or the fact that their new residence has a better ambiance and neighborhood.

Lay Everything Down Before God

Perhaps, the best way to cope with these changes is acceptance. People have to accept that change will be an ever-present occurrence in life. But with these changes should also come the belief that whatever happens, they can be reassured that God will be with them all along.

God won’t let them experience something they won’t overcome.

For instance, author Yelena Borichevska’s book about trials and challenges in life perfectly draws inspiration from this belief. In her book, She Let God Write Her Story, she tells a story of how laying down one’s will to God helps overcome whatever changes and situations may come one’s way.

This book tells the story of a young girl who moved from Ukraine to the United States shortly after 9/11. Both events are perfect examples of significantly unexpected changes, yet the character manages to cope with them through her faith and love for God.


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